Good Deed: # 196 Stop hating-Bughd
9:81 (Y. Ali) Those who were left behind (in the Tabuk expedition) rejoiced in their inaction behind the back of the Messenger of Allah. They hated to strive and fight, with their goods and their persons, in the cause of Allah. they said, “Go not forth in the heat.” Say, “The fire of Hell is fiercer in heat.” If only they could understand!
23:70 (Y. Ali) Or do they say, “He is possessed”? Nay, he has brought them the Truth, but most of them hate the Truth.
Abu’d-Darda’ said, “Shall I tell you about something better for you than sadaqa and fasting? Improving the state of friendship. Hatred is what shaves things away.”
Narrated Anas bin Malik: Allah’s Apostle said, “Do not hate one another, nor be jealous of one another; and do not desert one another, but O Allah’s worshipers! Be Brothers! And it is unlawful for a Muslim to desert his brother Muslim (and not to talk to him) for more than three nights.”
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales; and do not look for the others’ faults and do not spy, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another, and do not hate one another; and O Allah’s worshipers! Be brothers (as Allah has ordered you!”)
Anas Ibn Malik (ra) reported that he and other companions were sitting with the Messenger (pbuh), who said: “A man from the people of Paradise will enter now..” And a man from al-Ansar entered, with his beard dripping with water from Wudhu (ablution), and holding his sandals in his left hand.The following day, the Prophet (pbuh) said the same thing and the same man entered. On the third day, the Prophet (pbuh) again repeated his statement and the same man entered with water dripping and holding his sandals. Abdullah ibn Amr ibn Al-As (ra) was curious to know- what great things does this person do that made the Prophet (pbuh) say that about him? So when the Prophet (pbuh) left, Abdullah Ibn Amr Ibn al-As (ra) followed the man and said: ‘I quarreled with my father and I swore I would not go to him for three days and night. Would you shelter me for these days?’ the man replied: ‘Yes.’ Anas said: ‘Abdullah said that he stayed with this man for three nights and he did not see him praying at night, but every time he moved and changed position in bed he would remember Allah saying, ‘Allahu Akbar’ Until Salat-ul-Fajr (the dawn prayer). ”Abdullah said: ‘I didn’t hear anything from him but good. When the three nights had passed… I said: ‘O slave of Allah! I really didn’t abandon my father nor was I angry with him. But, I heard the Messenger of Allah speaking of you on three separate occasions, the Prophet had said that a man from the people of Paradise would enter, and you were the one to enter on all the three times. So, I wanted to stay with you to see what you do so that I could follow you. But I have not seen you doing much. So what is that you do for Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) to say what he had said?’ The man replied: ‘It is nothing more than what you saw.’ When it was time to leave, he called me back and said:‘Yes, it is nothing more than what you saw, except that I have no place in myself for ill-intentions, rancor or envy towards any Muslim and what Allah has given them.’ Abdullah said: ‘This is what has made you deserving of the praise and this is what we cannot do.” (Musnad Ahmad)
Action Plan
Hatred is an emotion of intense revulsion, distaste, enmity, or antipathy for a person, thing, or phenomenon, generally attributed to a desire to avoid, restrict, remove, or destroy the hated object. Hatred is also among the most common emotions that human’s experience. It can be based on fear of an object or past negative consequences of dealing with that object. Hatred is often described as the opposite of love or friendship.
2. Forgive and forget
5. Control and fight your desires
6. Be sincere and Supplicate/Make dua for the person you are hate – One should pray for the person toward whom he feels hatred, make specific supplications mentioning this person by name, asking Allah to give this person good things in this life and the next. When one does this with sincerity, hearts mend.
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