Good Deed: #50 Have children

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3:35 (Y. Ali) Behold! a woman of ‘Imran said: “O my Lord! I do dedicate unto Thee what is in my womb for Thy special service: So accept this of me: For Thou hearest and knowest all things.”

3:38 (Y. Ali) There did Zakariya pray to his Lord, saying: “O my Lord! Grant unto me from Thee a progeny that is pure: for Thou art He that heareth prayer!

21:89 (Y. Ali) And (remember) Zakariya, when he cried to his Lord: “O my Lord! leave me not without offspring, though thou art the best of inheritors.”

25:74 (Y. Ali) And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us spouse and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.”

49:13 (Y. Ali) O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things).

On the authority of Abu Hurairah: “When a person dies, his actions come to an end, except in one of three ways: A continuing act of charity, (or sadaqah), or a useful contribution to knowledge, or a righteous child who prays for him.” (Muslim, Abu Dawood, Al-Bukhari in “Al-Adab Al-Mufrad)

On authority of Abu Hurairah; “The rank of a dead person may be raised after his death. He asks; My Lord, how does this come about? He is then told:Your child has prayed for your forgiveness. (Ibn Majah and Malik )

Fareh Abdur Rahman aljazair  3 year old hafiz of the quran

Action Plan

1.   Good Deed: #47 -Marry

2. For pious offspring read the following duas constantly:

هُنَالِكَ دَعَا زَكَرِيَّا رَبَّهُ قَالَ رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِن

لَّدُنْكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاء (3:38)

Hunalika daAAa zakariyya rabbahu qala rabbi hab lee min ladunka thurriyyatan tayyibatan innaka sameeAAu aldduAAai

3:38  There did Zakariya pray to his Lord, saying: “O my Lord! Grant unto me from Thee a progeny that is pure: for Thou art He that heareth prayer!

Waallatheena yaqooloona rabbana hab lana min azwajina wathurriyyatina qurrata aAAyunin waijAAalna lilmuttaqeena imaman

وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا

وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا (

Waallatheena yaqooloona rabbana hab lana min azwajina wathurriyyatina qurrata aAAyunin waijAAalna lilmuttaqeena imaman

25:74  And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.”

3.Good Deed: #34 Be intimate with your spouse

4. When intending to have a sexual relation (sleep) with his wife, says: Bismillah, Allahumma jannibna ashShaitan, wa Jannib ash-Shaitana ma razaqtana(‘In the name of Allaah. O Allaah, keep the devil away from us and keep the devil away form what you have blessed us with.’) Satan would never harm that child, should it be ordained that they will have one. (Because of that sleep).” Bukhari – 009.093.493

5. Eat healthy during pregnancy and think happy thoughts as everything affects the baby inside.

6. Eat dates when in labour during childbirth.

“And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a palm-tree: She cried (in her anguish): “Ah! would that I had died before this! would that I had been a thing forgotten and out of sight!” But (a voice) cried to her from beneath the (palm-tree): “Grieve not! for thy Lord hath provided a rivulet beneath thee;”And shake towards thyself the trunk of the palm-tree: It will let fall fresh ripe dates upon thee.” 19:23 -25(Y.Ali)

7. Good Deed: #12 Have mercy on children

8. Read adhaan in baby’s ear when born.

9. Do tahneek – Muslim parents to put a piece of well chewed date (or other available sweet fruit) in the mouth of a new born baby.

Narrated Asma’ bint Abu Bakr I conceived ‘Abdullah bin AzZubair at Mecca and went out (of Mecca) while I was about to give birth. I came to Medina and encamped at Quba’, and gave birth at Quba’. Then I brought the child to Allah’s Apostle and placed it (on his lap). He asked for a date, chewed it, and put his saliva in the mouth of the child. So the first thing to enter its stomach was the saliva of Allah’s Apostle. Then he did its Tahnik with a date, and invoked Allah to bless him. It was the first child born in the Islamic era, therefore they (Muslims) were very happy with its birth, for it had been said to them that the Jews had bewitched them, and so they would not produce any offspring. (007.066.378 Bukhari)

10.By the 7th day give your children good  arabic muslim names – arabic boys/masculine names or arabic girls/feminine names.

11. On the7th day, his or her head should be shaved and the hair weighed, and the equivalent of the hair in gold (i.e. the cost of that weight of gold) should be given away in charity to the poor.

12. Make aqeeqah for new born. zabiha- slaughter 2 sheep for a boy and 1 sheep for a girl.

Hadhrat Aishah R.A narrates, “The Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam instructed us to sacrifice two goats in favour of a boy and one goat in favour of a girl.”   (TIRMIDHI)

13. Circumcise your baby boy.

14. It is recommended to breastfeed/suckle the child for 2 years.

“The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years, if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms. No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear. No mother shall be Treated unfairly on account of her child. Nor father on account of his child, an heir shall be chargeable in the same way. If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring, there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (the mother) what ye offered, on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what ye do.”2:233 (Y. Ali)

Other resources

Benefits of having children

What to do when you  have a new born islamically

Necessary Tips for Raising Children Islamically

Raising Positive Children Today

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